Category: BIRTH STORIES

Clare and Zara

Hi Nikki, just a quick note to let you know that Zara Louise was born this morning. Despite our birth plan being completely off piste (I was diagnosed with late onset pre-eclampsia at 38+6, with an emergency induction on the same day) it was a very positive experience (even with my induction being paused after 24hrs as delivery suite was full). I put this down to the knowledge that you’ve given me over the past 6 months. I couldn’t be very active during birthing as was on continuous monitoring but I was equipped to know what was happening and what to expect next. I even managed to nap between contractions 😃!

A massive thank you and I’d be more than happy to come along to one of your positive birth meetings to share my experience.

On a personal note I’d like to say a huge thank you to you. It took me years to pluck up the courage to get pregnant as I was so scared of child birth. 

Once I met you all of that changed. You armed me with the knowledge not to be scared. I knew what to expect and took away the ‘unknown’ that I was so scared of! As you know I was even planning a home birth – a transformation in perspective! Although my plan didn’t work out I was still calm through out Zara’s birth and that was down to the knowledge you imparted to me. I can still see the image of flowers opening in my mind 😁. You have a gift Nikki. Keep passing it to other women like me! Thank you. C xx

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A BEAUTIFUL HOMEBIRTH STORY – Katrina

Home birth story 😍

I was ‘due’ with baby at the end of April 2018. Having been very careful in my first pregnancy to only tell people the end of my ‘due window’ date and to have mentally prepared for going to 42w or longer, and then birthed him at 39 + 6, somehow this time I’d messed up and actually told people the end of April! So as the 1st of may came and went I found that I was starting to get impatient – and irritated as the ‘any news yet’ texts started rolling in! Turns out I’m great at advising friends and family that babies ‘arrive when they’re ready’ but I’m not so patient myself! 

With my first I’d had no pre-labour signs at all and the first thing which happened was my waters breaking in the night. However, this time around I’d had tightenings, on and off low back ache, baby’s head engaging and waddling for a morning only for it to have gone back up after a lie down etc for weeks!

Having checked the weather forecast for the may bank holiday weekend I’d joked on the Thursday that Friday Eve would be perfect timing for baby to arrive! On Friday I was feeling quite emotional and irritated by my son so I did wonder if it would happen! I’d been watching home birth videos with my son to prepare him in case he was there and on Fri afternoon we watched a new one together. After we finished watching it I started becoming aware of some ‘period pain’ cramps starting to come and go. At the same time (around 3.15) my husband phoned to say he was leaving work and on his way home for the weekend. 

By the time he got in (around 4.45) I told him that tonight could be the night as although the cramps were mild they were coming and going every few minutes. We decided to continue with dinner and then Dan would at least blow up the birth pool just in case. I also text my doula and the midwives just to give them a heads up it could be tonight.

At 5.10 my phone rang and I answered, thinking it could be one of the midwives. However it wasn’t – it was an estate agent giving us the news we hadn’t got the house we wanted. I felt deflated and through dinner the cramps stopped and I was worried labour would stall. By 6ish though they had started again so I called the midwives and by 6.30 they were increasing in strength so I called again, and my doula, to say please come NOW.  My first birth was only a 4 hour active labour and I’d been warned this one was likely to be even faster so I suddenly wanted them here asap! I was thrilled when Alice (midwife on call) said that Tanya had been asked to be called as Tanya had been my named midwife through both pregnancies.

My son was still up and wanting to play so I just knelt on an armchair through surges and played with him in between. When Nikki (doula) arrived around 7, Dan took Charlie through to go to bed and left us to labour alone. Around 7.25 though Charlie came pottering out wanting mummy to put him to bed (we usually feed to sleep still at night). I judged he was close enough to sleep to give it a try so I went and laid down with him and let him have a feed. I had to use all my hypnobirthing concentration and affirmations to get through surges whilst staying relaxed so he could go to sleep!

At 7.40 he was down and I left him and returned to the sitting room. Surges were getting really quite strong and I could feel we really weren’t that far away. The midwives arrived (Alice, Tanya and a student) whilst I was still labouring knelt in the armchair and Dan cracked on with getting the tea and biscuits out (fortunately he already had the pool up and filled!).

After the next surge or two I asked if I could get in the pool as I was starting to feel the urge to push. It was heaven getting in! Once I was in I don’t think I had many more surges to breathe through before I could feel her head was there and ready! At that I panicked slightly inside as she was coming so fast I was worried I would tear. Dan tried to leave to go make more tea and for the first time I snapped at him to stay with me!

Her head was born in an unstoppable rush on one surge and then Tanya was able to warn me that there was a hand up and I was able to gently breathe her out through the next surge. I even managed to catch her this time whereas Laura (midwife) had had to help me with my son! Official birth time was 8.14, only 34 minutes after finishing putting Charlie to bed!

We had lots of cuddles in the water as we greeted our little girl (we hadn’t found out the sex and I’d not had any strong feelings this time, unlike with my son). However the placenta was being a little slow to come so eventually Dan cut the cord so Tanya and I could concentrate on getting it out whilst she had some skin to skin with daddy. The placenta then came out quite quickly and I got out the pool to be checked – miraculously no tears and not even a graze!

We snuggled on the sofa and all had a chat over tea and biscuits whilst the midwives finished their notes and did the first checks and weighed (7lb 9oz).

By half 10 everyone left us to it, with Alice joking she’d said she’d wanted a birth that evening, preferably done by 10pm 😉 we were happy to oblige!

Nikki Barrow Barile – Birth & Post-Natal Doula

I cannot express how blessed we are to live in an area with access to such amazing midwives, providing an incredible personalised service on the NHS. Nikki Barrow (doula) has also been an invaluable part of both our pregnancy/birthing journies and I would highly recommend all pregnant ladies consider hiring a doula to support them – wherever they plan on birthing their baby.

A POSITIVE ACTIVE BIRTH with YOGA BREATHING

“Hi Nikki. Look who arrived on Tuesday morning 😍 Ottilie Margaret. We had an amazing 12 hour labour where I stayed on my feet or knees the whole time. With each contraction I used the golden thread breath (it was a bit noisier then in our class!) and a lot of vowel breaths. Although the pain was unlike anything I could have imagined I felt very in control and trusted what was happening. 

Unfortunately it ended with an emergency C section….I got a violent bout of sickness and her heart rate shot up. They tried a number of things but it wouldn’t stabilise so out she came. They weren’t sure if one of us had an infection or the cord was around her neck.

Fortunately on arrival she seemed fine…..but even on the theatre table I used all the techniques I’ve been practicing since week 15 of my pregnancy. Thank you for a brilliant class which prepared me for a really positive birth experience. See you soon for baby yoga! Fi Xxx”

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A Homebirth Story

“Hi Nikki, I had my baby boy this morning (39+5) at home in the pool at 7.38 and his weight was 9lbs 8oz. Had to go to the hospital though for the third degree tear that needed repairing in the theatre under the spinal block. Hopefully will get to go home shortly.

I used golden thread breath and ocean breath for most of it. Thank you so much as these helped tremendously xx Kasia”

 

Kasia’s Full Birth Story:

Got my hbac 😍. Baby Finn born on Monday 29th Jan weighing 4.320kg (9lbs8oz) at 39+5 weeks

💙 birth story 💙

After falling asleep with my toddler just after 8pm I woke up around 11pm with what I initially thought were BH. Had them quite strong since about 37th week every night but this time they felt somehow different- very low at the front of my belly and in my lower back. I went downstairs to hang around for a bit and see if they would stop at some point. After a while I noticed a pattern so decided to time it and it turned out the contractions were coming every 3-3.30 minutes and were lasting about a minute but were bearable so I didn’t want to ring my midwife just yet as I still wasn’t convinced I was in labour. And also being “only” 39+5 as with my first baby I went to 41+6 so was kind of expecting similar gestation this time around..
After being awake for about 2 hrs I decided to go back to bed and see if I can have a little nap but I kept waking up every so often with the stronger surges so I said to myself “right – I’m going to have a bath and see if this changes anything”. I said to my partner that I think something was happening and I’m going for a bath for some relief. it was just after 2am at this point. the bath felt lovely and I stayed there for well over an hour as it was so nice and I didn’t feel like getting out. I checked the times between contractions and they were closer together now – every 2.20-2.45 minutes and lasted just over a minute but were definitely stronger, so I gathered myself and got out of the bath and decided to ring my IM – Kathryn. It was just before 4am when I rang her. I don’t think I sounded very convincing about the labour as I could talk normally only just stopped for 20ish second with a contraction. Kathryn said she can come over if I wanted her to or I can just wait another while until the contractions get longer. I wasn’t really sure and said ok will give it another while then, but she advised it was probably a good idea to start setting up the birthing pool, so I got excited this is it! I went upstairs to wake my partner up and repeated what Kathryn said. Off he went downstairs setting up the pool! As he was getting off the bed my toddler woke up! So I went back to bed to snuggle with Charlie trying to get him back to sleep. Darkness and cuddles with my toddler must have released more oxytocin as the contractions started getting stronger and longer 🙈. I began breathing louder through them (I was using my favourite breath – golden thread!) and after a while I felt the need to get out of the bed as I couldn’t stay any longer in the curled up position. I tried to move my toddler to the side and was hoping he was asleep but he was having none of it and asked for a feed 😬. There was no way I wanted to face the contractions getting even stronger with him feeding! My partner heard us having a debate on feeding and came up to take Charlie downstairs. I have followed then with only one thought in my mind “please the pool be ready!”, thankfully it was! I got in and it was such a relief.. It must have been about 5.30am. The contractions were getting stronger and stronger and after a while I started feeling like there is something I need to push out! With one of the contractions my plug went and I got into a bit of a panic and shouted to Michael to ring our midwife! When he rang her it was 6.30am and after she heard me moaning in the background she said she was coming over! So Kathryn arrived at around 7am. once I saw her I said “I can’t do this- it’s too sore!” to which she replied – of course you can. you are doing it. It is only minutes not hours left. I promise you. – this gave me a boost and at that point I just couldn’t wait to meet my baby! I felt my waters going within the next few minutes and not long after baby’s head was born after it rocked forth and back with a few contractions and then with the following contraction (during which I shouted- he is kicking me! – that was such a weird feeling having the baby kicking inside while his head was out! but I was just reassured that the baby was doing his little turn) he was out at 7.38am. I was in a bit of a shock and meant to pick him up myself but somehow felt paralysed and couldn’t believe the baby was actually out! My midwife placed him on my chest and it was such wonderful feeling 😍. he was very calm and had a bunch of black hair and vernix on his bum and back. It was lovely having my first born witness his baby brother being born- he straight away wanted to touch baby’s head and it was so sweet of him to also say hello to the baby. We stayed in the pool for cuddles and first feed. Placenta followed just over 20 minutes after the baby was born. Cord was left until white and limp and then daddy cut it and we moved to the couch.

At the examination it turned out I had a 3rd degree tear that needed fixing in theatre under spinal block, so the ambulance was called and we transferred. Baby stayed with me all the time and we were back home same day late eveving. It all would have been perfect if we didn’t have to transfer but even so this doesn’t take away from the wonderful home birth- such incomparable experience to my first labour in hospital which ended with cs. If I could only turn back time – I would have definitely attempted a homebirth and chose an IM for the pregnancy and birth.

Michael just wanted to add: “it was so lovely to be in our own environment and to feel in control compared to a hospital environment. Amazing that Charlie was able to be present for the birth”.

❤ Thank you to wonderful Independent Midwife Kathryn Weymouth for the support and stress free pregnancy ❤

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